I think most people when they hear this phrase would think, oh this is the perfect fit relationship. But when I thought of it, it was watching others and myself going through relationships that didn’t fit.
Most people in the story of Cinderella think of her and how the shoe fit perfectly. But what I think about is the ugly stepsisters. In the original telling of the story, the stepsisters did everything they could including cutting parts of their feet off in order to fit the shoe. I feel sometimes we do this in relationships in order to make them fit. We don’t care that the person may not be right for us or us for them. We will do everything we can in order to fit, including cutting off valuable parts of ourselves in order to make it work.
Shouldn’t our relationships help us to be the best versions of ourselves we can be? To help us to grow, to evolve, to be better than we were before? Shouldn’t we be allowing each other to be themselves entirely? Why do we shove ourselves into ill fitting relationships just in order to not be alone ?