glass slipper love…

I think most people when they hear this phrase would think, oh this is the perfect fit relationship. But when I thought of it, it was watching others and myself going through relationships that didn’t fit.

Most people in the story of Cinderella think of her and how the shoe fit perfectly. But what I think about is the ugly stepsisters. In the original telling of the story, the stepsisters did everything they could including cutting parts of their feet off in order to fit the shoe. I feel sometimes we do this in relationships in order to make them fit. We don’t care that the person may not be right for us or us for them. We will do everything we can in order to fit, including cutting off valuable parts of ourselves in order to make it work.

Shouldn’t our relationships help us to be the best versions of ourselves we can be? To help us to grow, to evolve, to be better than we were before? Shouldn’t we be allowing each other to be themselves entirely? Why do we shove ourselves into ill fitting relationships just in order to not be alone ?



So as of now my heart isn’t in hospice or at least not at the moment. It really left it the day dad died. I knew I would have a hard time with it anyway, but it’s progressively getting more difficult.

So now I am at a crossroads again. Where to go, what to do. What is the right choice? Moving out of the only home I’ve known for the last 18 years, signed up for a project management class, finished an HR one. I feel torn in so many ways and yet I just keep moving forward. I don’t even know if where I am moving is forward. It may be backward and it may be wrong.

I really don’t know anymore what to do.

all clear and movie date alone…

Got my clear from the counselor and went to employee health to get my flu shot and give them my paperwork. They asked a few questions such as do I think I’m ready to return. I said yes, but I don’t know until I try. 

Other news, I went to a movie alone. 

Pitch Perfect 3…. ordered a popcorn and a drink and enjoyed a movie alone. I’ve never done it before but will definitely again. It may not seem like a big deal to anyone, but it’s a big deal to me and I’m glad I did it before returning to work. It was something on my check list of things to do. 

hmmm what next…

So through rumors and a few confirmations while still being on short term disability,  I have found out our company sold our hospice and homecare programs.  So now all these people who have tenure and pto and retirement saved up, will lose it all. Thinking about all of that can leave someone overwhelmed. But I’m trying to stay in the present moment.  And not worry about what’s going to happen. Although, that is somewhat difficult.  I just had the feeling something like this was going to pass.  This isn’t eloquent by any means, but definitely needs to be noted.  
So I have my job, and the other coordinator put her two weeks notice in. Also the bereavement coordinator left,  which means even more work when I get back. I don’t know how long I will last. 

where does a month go…

I looked at my last post date and it was a month ago. How does a month go by so quickly? What work have I really gotten done? I had another month added on to my leave and yet I’m still here in this emotional wonderland. 

Why wonderland? If you look at Alice in Wonderland, she is in a crazy mixed up world. A world that doesn’t quite make sense. A world in which she needs to discover herself, and how to “escape” or “get back home.”  It’s a place full of twists and turns and confusion.  She’s not sure who she can trust or what she should do. She tries everything. Follows someone who seems to know their way.  Listens to someone who seems wise. Tries to make friends and adapt. 

It just came into my mind that this time has been that for me. These past three years have been a time of growth and change, adapting to a new environment, confusion,  wondering where I am, who I am and what my purpose is. I feel like I will always have times in my life where I’m questioning these things.  Next really is to figure out what I need to do get to my next path. 

As the caterpillar asked, “who are you?”

Side note: started preparing for next trip.  🙂

the diagnosis…

Was diagnosed with arthritis yesterday … young for it, was what the doctors said… No cure… only pain management… the brain started reacting in the best way it knew how by deafening the words and a gentle ringing in my ears. What does this mean? 

I can’t run anymore … the thing that I overcame…. this hurdle in my life and now the thing I miss … I can’t do it. 

Well f*** it… I just have to go from here.  That’s all I can do. 

My dad was diagnosed early and almost the same situation. Getting off a plane…excruciating pain … thought he had broken his knee.  I got tested last year when it initially happened. Came back negative…. took a year later for me to finally have an MRI.  Then the doctor saw me this week … it’s all happening within a month and a half. Doctors appts.. surgeries… mri.. piercings .. can’t forget those.. side shave that I always wanted… counseling… I  will not give up or give in. Maybe somehow I can conquer this or do something with it. But it still sucks… all I can do is laugh, cry, swear,  shake my head and breathe on. 


So apparently during this time, I’m supposed to be doing self-care. I’m hoping the MRI on my knees Friday and the surgery I’m waiting for right now for the lump I’ve had near my lymph nodes count. I have never had surgery except my wisdom teeth, and hospitals already bring back trauma because of my dad. So both of these things are making this time extra anxiety ridden.  I have no idea what to expect, only what I’ve seen with my family. I’m hoping I do ok. That this is something needed.  And it constitutes as self-care.  I just want to go home and sleep. No big words of wisdom for today.  Just wanting to document all of this for posterity.  Speaking of posteriors, it’s a colon rectal surgeon who is doing my surgery 😂. 

list life…

My counselor put me on short term disability as of Monday.  I just can’t function any more at work … at least not in a healthy way. I can’t heal because I’m still in it. Also, taking care of a couple other health issues…

So in this down time, I need to do self – care. My friend suggested I make a list of things I want to accomplish. Which thinking about it is something I do. Haha

So here it is…  follow up with nurse practioner about knees, check, finish up my ear piercings,  check (considering I never had any until last year, this is a huge deal… I now have 5) the main lobe piercings are poppies . They are what I was drawn to, and of course they were poppies which is what I called my dad.  Research masters programs and funding and schools,  sky dive, glass blowing class or pottery class, drive somewhere and stay overnight,  possibly Canada or grand canyon ,  read some of the gmat book, I might list more, but I think this is good for now 🙂 

List on …